DIVORCE IRANIAN STYLE

Iran­ian women seek­ing divorce meet with strong oppo­si­tion. Often, they stand help­less while their hus­bands win in law-suits and get the cus­tody of their chil­dren, even if they abuse them or attach little value to the edu­ca­tion of their daugh­ters. Film­mak­er Kim Longinot­to and the Iran­ian anthro­pol­o­gist and writer Ziba Mir-Hos­sei­ni observed three law-suits in Teheran in which the dig­ni­ty of women and jus­tice are the big losers. Jamileh is mal­treat­ed by her hus­band, Maryam fights for the cus­tody of her chil­dren, and 16-year-old Ziba wants to divorce her 38-year-old spouse. If she suc­ceeds, she will have to go through life as out­cast, due to the loss of her vir­gin­i­ty. Judges rec­og­nize argu­ments like »my wife leaves the house with­out my per­mis­sion«, and they think that chil­dren should be allowed to marry as soon as they have reached puber­ty, »even if they are nine years old«. Under Islam­ic law, men can divorce their wives at will but women must first obtain their hus­bands’ con­sent. If the divorce is con­test­ed, Iran­ian women must be able to prove in court evi­dence of impo­tence, insan­i­ty or lack of finan­cial support.

»(…) After our arrival, with let­ters of intro­duc­tion from the Min­istry of Guid­ance, and aided by the Public Rela­tions Sec­tion of the Min­istry of Jus­tice, we vis­it­ed sev­er­al Judi­cial Com­plex­es. There are six­teen of these, scat­tered around Tehran. Each con­tains a number of courts, and deals with dis­putes filed by local res­i­dents, which differ in nature, given Tehran’s geo­graph­i­cal divi­sion on socio-eco­nom­ic lines – broad­ly, the middle class­es in the north, the work­ing class­es in the south. This posed a prob­lem for us. Our Min­istry guides wanted us to show the diver­si­ty of the courts, and the range of dis­putes heard; they were keen for us to film in courts headed by both civil and reli­gious judges, and to cover mar­i­tal dis­putes in dif­fer­ent socio-eco­nom­ic strata – to do a kind of soci­o­log­i­cal survey. But we wanted to work in a single court, to cap­ture some­thing of the life of the court itself. We knew that in Tehran, with a pop­u­la­tion of over ten mil­lion, no court could be rep­re­sen­ta­tive, and we did not want to do a ‘soci­o­log­i­cal survey’ on film. We wanted to focus on char­ac­ters and devel­op sto­ry­lines. We also knew that our project depend­ed much on the good­will of the judge and court staff, so it was impor­tant for us to work in a court where they wel­comed us, under­stood our project and were will­ing to be part of it.

This was dif­fi­cult to explain to the offi­cials, but final­ly we set­tled for the Imam Khome­i­ni Judi­cial Com­plex, the largest one, locat­ed in cen­tral Tehran near the Bazaar. It housed some Min­istry of Jus­tice offices, includ­ing the Public Rela­tions Sec­tion, as well as thirty-three Gen­er­al Courts. Two courts dealt with family dis­putes, both headed by cler­i­cal judges: Judge Deldar, who sat only in the morn­ing, and Judge Mah­davi, who sat only in the after­noon. We were intro­duced to both judges; both said we could film in their courts.

At first we filmed in both courts, but soon we con­fined our­selves to Judge Deldar’s, which we found more inter­est­ing. As Judge Mah­davi dealt only with divorce by mutual con­sent, that is, cases where both par­ties had already worked out an agree­ment, there was little room for nego­ti­a­tion: the dynam­ics of the cases heard were rather uni­form, and the cou­ples rarely revealed the real rea­sons behind the break­down of mar­riage. Judge Deldar, on the other hand, dealt with all kinds of mar­i­tal dis­putes, thus we found a much wider range of sto­ries and a more spon­ta­neous envi­ron­ment. Besides, the court staff were also fas­ci­nat­ing char­ac­ters in their own right, espe­cial­ly Mrs. Maher, the court sec­re­tary, who had worked in the same branch for over 20 years. She was an extreme­ly capa­ble woman who under­stood our project, and her daugh­ter Paniz was a real gift. Both soon became inte­gral to the film. After a week, we too became part of the court life. The pres­ence of an all-woman crew changed the gender bal­ance in the court­room; and undoubt­ed­ly gave sev­er­al women courage. Like­wise, the fact that the crew had both Iran­ian and for­eign mem­bers, I believe, helped tran­scend the insider/outsider divide. The camera was a link here too, as well as between public and pri­vate. We never filmed with­out people’s con­sent. Before each new case, I approached the two par­ties in the cor­ri­dor, explained who we were and what our film was about, and asked whether they would agree to par­tic­i­pate. I explained how we wanted to make a film that for­eign audi­ences could relate to, to try and bridge the gap in under­stand­ing, to show how Iran­ian Muslim women, like women in other parts of the world, do the best they can to make sense of the world around them and to better their lives. Some agreed, others refused. On the whole, and per­haps not sur­pris­ing­ly, most women wel­comed the project and wanted to be filmed.

We filmed for four weeks in Novem­ber-Decem­ber 1997. Back to London, we start­ed edit­ing our over 16 hours of footage. (…) In going through the mate­r­i­al, rather than focus­ing on the exotic and the dif­fer­ent, we tried to focus on com­mon­al­i­ties: how dif­fi­cult mar­riage can be and the pain involved in its break­down. We also tried to show what it is like inside a Tehran law court, and to give glimpses into the lives of ordi­nary people. Although clear­ly some ‘con­tex­tu­al infor­ma­tion’ was essen­tial, we were anx­ious not to over­crowd the film with facts and fig­ures, not to tell view­ers what to think, but to allow them to draw their own con­clu­sions. Above all, we wanted to let the women speak, to show how they are strong indi­vid­u­als going through a dif­fi­cult phase in their lives, and to com­mu­ni­cate the pain – and the humour – involved in the break­down of mar­riage.« (Ziba Mir Hosseini)

Extracts from ISIM Newslet­ter 2; March 1999; p. 17 

Kim Longinot­to: PRIDE OF PLACE (1978); THEATRE GIRLS (1979); CROSS AND PASSION (1981); UNDERAGE (1983); FIRERAISER (1985); EAT THE KIMONO (1989); HIDDEN FACES (1991); THE GOOD WIFE OF TOKYO (1992); TRAGIC BUT BRAVE (1993); DREAM GIRLS (1993); SHINJUKU BOYS (1995); ROCK WIVES (1996)

Ziba Mir-Hossi­ni: DIVORCE IRANIAN STYLE (1998)

RUNAWAY

Female direc­tors Kim Longinot­to and Ziba Mir-Hos­sei­ni, who pre­vi­ous­ly col­lab­o­rat­ed on the mem­o­rable doc­u­men­tary DIVORCE IRANIAN STYLE, are back in Teheran. This time they are vis­it­ing a centre for girls who have run away from home. Treat­ing their hero­ines with a great deal of under­stand­ing and respect, the film­mak­ers enter into their trou­ble­some lives. The film crew obvi­ous­ly suc­ceed­ed in gain­ing the full trust of the girls, because we see them open­ing up with­out being both­ered by the pres­ence of the camera. In spite of being raised by their family and soci­ety to obey and never talk back, these girls have found the courage to stand up for their freedom. 

By leav­ing their homes, they are trying to turn a new page in life. But what are their chances? As an offi­cial insti­tu­tion in Iran­ian soci­ety, this Centre also has to play accord­ing to the rules. Nev­er­the­less, the charis­mat­ic and firm Mrs Shi­razi, who runs the place, always finds a way to rene­go­ti­ate the rela­tion­ships between the par­ents and the run­aways. With­out being voyeuris­tic, the film­mak­ers follow cer­tain cases from the moment the girls enter the Centre until the moment they go back home. 

THE DAY I WILL NEVER FORGET

THE DAY I WILL NEVER FORGET is a grip­ping fea­ture doc­u­men­tary by acclaimed film­mak­er Kim Longinot­to (DIVORCE IRANIAN STYLE AND RUNAWAY) that exam­ines the prac­tice of female gen­i­tal muti­la­tion in Kenya and the pio­neer­ing African women who are brave­ly revers­ing the tra­di­tion. In this epic work, Longinot­to pro­vides women the oppor­tu­ni­ty to speak can­did­ly about the prac­tice and explain its cul­tur­al sig­nif­i­cance within Kenyan soci­ety. From grip­ping tes­ti­mo­ni­als by young women who share the painful after­math of their trauma to inter­views with elder­ly matri­archs who stub­born­ly stand behind the prac­tice, Longinot­to paints a com­plex por­trait of the cur­rent polemics and con­flicts that have allowed this pro­ce­dure to exist well into modern times. 

SISTERS IN LAW

Set in Kumba Town, Cameroon, SISTERS IN LAW is a pow­er­ful case study of a soci­ety in tran­si­tion. The film cap­tures the legal pro­ceed­ings and court­room drama sur­round­ing sev­er­al heart-felt sto­ries. Six-year-old Grace was beaten by her way­ward aunt. Young Sonita was raped by a neigh­bour, but is brave enough to do some­thing about it. The sub­dued Amina seeks divorce from an abu­sive hus­band. Instead of play­ing vic­tims, the women are empow­ered by the sup­port­ive cli­mate cre­at­ed by Judge Beat­rice Ntaba and State Pros­e­cu­tor Vera Ngassa, who foster courage in them every day. Master film­mak­er Kim Longinot­to has a com­pas­sion­ate camera eye, and an uncan­ny abil­i­ty to be at the right place at the right time - always in the moment, dis­creet, cul­tur­al­ly aware and sen­si­tive. Co-direc­tor Flo­rence Ayisi, who grew up in Kumba, believes the film will make people think beyond the stereo­types about Africa: “It shows wom­en’s courage, strength and deter­mi­na­tion to break away from their vio­lent lives with the sup­port of their sis­ters in the judi­cial system.” This film moves us into an emo­tion­al, human­ist space, one which pro­vides pos­i­tive hope for real change. 

Pink Saris

In the north­ern Indian state of Uttar Pradesh, Sampat Pal Devi fights against forced mar­riage, vio­lence against women, and the humil­i­a­tion faced by the untouch­ables. The ener­getic Sampat, who con­trary to tra­di­tion­al roles is respect­ed at all times wher­ev­er she goes, faced vio­lence and oppres­sion her­self when she was mar­ried off at the age of eight. Since then she has been eman­ci­pat­ed from her family and is now the leader of the so called Gulabi Gang, a fem­i­nist vig­i­lante group of sorts that wears pink saris and helps other oppressed girls and women. Among them Rekha, a 14 year old untouch­able who is three months preg­nant, yet unable to marry the father of her child because he belongs to anoth­er caste. Or 15 year old Renu, who speaks of throw­ing her­self in front of a train because her hus­band from an arranged mar­riage has left her and her father-in-law has raped her. 

Kim Longinot­to’s inge­nious artistry lies in an ele­gant abil­i­ty to estab­lish trust with sub­jects and a deep sen­si­tiv­i­ty to their cul­tur­al con­texts, yield­ing an alchem­i­cal inti­ma­cy in which sub­tleties and com­plex­i­ties are allowed to sur­face and unfold to breath-taking effect. (Sun­dance Film Festival) 

Salma

In vil­lages inhab­it­ed by India’s Muslim minor­i­ty in Tamil south­ern India, as soon as a girl reach­es puber­ty she is locked away until her wed­ding. This was Salma’s fate when she turned thir­teen. Hungry for an edu­ca­tion, she avoid­ed an arranged mar­riage for nine long years by keep­ing her­self con­fined in a bare room. When she final­ly agrees to wed local politi­cian Malik, she finds her­self impris­oned once again – this time in her husband’s home where the only things she has to read are news­pa­pers wrap­ping the veg­eta­bles. Clan­des­tine­ly, she begins to write poetry which her mother helps her smug­gle out to a pub­lish­er. Her life changes com­plete­ly when her poems are pub­lished, and she final­ly trav­els to Chen­nai for the first time. Now a well-known poet, she begins to apply for gov­ern­ment posi­tions, and inspires her sis­ters and other women also to fight for their free­dom and inde­pen­dence. For, she argues, it is the mutual oppres­sion of women by other women that per­pet­u­ates the status quo.